Let’s have a break from Munich (but not from outfits!) just to celebrate this special Try-Day Friday! This is an outfit post with a story and with some important message for me and for all my beautiful readers.
But let’s start from the beginning: a few months ago, before going on holiday, I spent a lovely Sunday with my friends; we went for a brunch in a beautiful location in Milan (the Fuorimano, amazing place and delicious brunch!) and then we enjoyed a beautiful tour of the colored vintage houses of the Quartiere Arcobaleno in Milan. As the locations were pretty interesting and my favorite photographer was there with his camera, we organized a lovely photo-shoot to share on my blog and social media.
I didn’t share until today and there is a reason for that: I was facing one of my biggest fashion fears ever…the naked belly! When I woke up that morning I was in a very good mood: I was about to leave for my summer holidays and I felt particularly fashion fearless. I then wore one of my favorite African wax tops from Heka Couture, an amazing couture piece that I usually wear with high-waisted bottoms (as it is quite short and I need to cover my not fabulously toned belly), with a normal waist jeans from Zara. It didn’t feel too bad, until I saw the pictures: they were amazing but I kept focusing on these few centimeters of belly appearing between my top and my jeans, screaming something like: “you are fat”!!!
I decided then to leave these pictures there for a while, until I was maybe feeling better about them. I came back to these photographs a couple of times in the meanwhile but nothing, the scream was still there.
As I don’t believe in coincidences (everything happens for a reason!), while lazily surfing on Instagram the other day, I found out about Dia&Co Try-Day Friday… Their message is very simple: beauty is not a matter of size or centimeters, you are beautiful no matter what size is written on the tag. They promote the Try-Day Friday attitude, supporting women to wear at least once a week something that scares them and to feel comfortable with it.
There is a lot of talking around body shaming and body positive attitude lately and my personal slogan is “curvy does it better”, but all my positive body ideas, all my talking about beauty coming from the inside and from self-acceptance and self-love just fell down in front of these few centimeters of fat belly.
I spent a couple of days with this idea in mind: how is it that I am super positive about other people curvy bodies and self-love and I am so critical about myself? After a few days I found the answer, but more importantly I found the action to face and to overcome this stupid fear: it was time to share with the world my naked belly pictures! I am not scared of other people’s opinion about me and maybe, some of you with similar fashion and body fears will find the strength to do the same!
I understood that I am not defined by the amount of fat on my body and that my body is not defined by the models that are everywhere on TV, magazines and Internet. I choose to embrace my fat, my cellulite, my wrinkles because it is me, and I am super proud of myself!
Photo Credit: Marco Di Terlizzi
Top: Heka Couture
Jeans and shoes: Zara
Vintage bag: Epiphany Vintage Frankfurt
Vintage earrings: Bohemian Retro Prague
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